Your body language may not be something you’ve given much thought about. However, your level of success can often be traced back to the unconscious. You do things unconsciously every day, such as wiggling your foot when you sit down or fidgeting in your seat. These actions reveal what you really think and how you feel.
Lack of Eye Contact
In most western cultures, if people avoid eye contact it feels as if they’re hiding something or being dishonest. Sometimes it may mean that they’re more submissive or shy than you. It can also be due to autism. However, knowing that people prefer eye contact can encourage you to work on it to present a more positive image.
Head Nodding
Head nodding is one of the most confusing aspects of body language because it’s one way that men and women get confused about what the other means. But in general, too much head-nodding implies the person is bored or having issues really listening. Slower nodding indicates more interest.
Dilated Pupils
While the light in the room plays a huge factor in whether your eyes are dilated or not, your eyes also dilated based on arousal, pleasure, and happiness. People who really like each other have dilated pupils that stay that way even if the light is normal.
Blink Rate
Stress can make you blink more than if you were not stressed. Often a lot of blinking can indicate lying. Although very rapid eyelash blinking can also be a way to flirt with someone you’re attracted to. While most of us don’t have control over our pupils you can use this knowledge when dealing with others.
Face Touching
When you touch your face, it’s often a sign of deception, for example, covering your mouth with your hand indicates deception. You may be deceiving yourself or others. It might just be imposter syndrome, as this behavior is unconscious. If you do this often consider being more mindful, so you can stop doing it.
Arms Crossing the Body
People often close their arms to indicate they’re done with the discussion and don’t want any more arguments. Crossing the arms is a way to protect themselves. Some people might put an actual object in the way instead of arms.
Open Posture Leaning In
When someone is relaxed, happy, and non-threatened, they often have a very open forward-facing body language with their hands not covering any part of their body or face. They even may lean in to get closer to the person talking. This indicates they’re interested in what you’re saying or you.
Mirroring
If you are with people and you notice that they are unconsciously copying your movements, it’s possible that they really like you or they want you to like them. If you want to make someone who is nervous feel more comfortable try mirroring them without being obvious. Match your breath with theirs, and they’ll visibly relax around you.
One thing to consider when learning about body language is that different cultures have different types of body language meanings. For example, it isn’t as common as in the USA for people to want as much eye contact and in Brazil people generally, don’t concern themselves with personal space as much as people in the USA do. Therefore, don’t generalize this information for every single culture. Consider the other person’s culture before you judge their body language.